Thursday, March 24, 2016

The Mis-gendering in Indiana

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There's two things I can count on in life. No - not death and taxes. The mis-gendering that happens to me in Indiana and Indian restaurants (read: "Thank you, sir!).

Yes, I have a shaved head.
Yes, I often wear pants and dark colors.
Yes, I have a small chest.
Yes, I carry a men's wallet.

But, to me on the inside, I still feel like I look like a woman. So, it just makes me laugh - at least now it does. Maybe a few years ago it didn't. And maybe if I didn't have a good support system, I'd be devastated.

I'm an Asian American woman who has a shaved head and mostly wears pants.

I just don't see such a big deal?

We know that with one's gender expression, then many people take the leap into sexual orientation. That if you're a gender non-conforming, female (cis or trans), you're assumed to be lesbian.

Keep this shit separate, people. One does not equal the other.